Okay so y'all know that I don't live near my friends and family right? Right.
So when something bad happens to one of my friends or family...I'm not there to hug them or do something nice for them.
I'm over 1,000 miles away.
All I really have are words.
And sometimes words just aren't enough.
Sure, I could send a card...but what do you put in a card? WORDS.
I can't hug them or make them dinner. And I can't pick up their child for the day. I can't go over and clean their house to relieve some stress. Or help take care of them while their sick.
So what the heck do I do when...
a dear friend finds out they are having a miscarriage?
a friend loses their only child to cancer?
a friend goes through infertility issues when all they want in life is to be a mommy?
a friend almost dies on the operating table and has a tough road to recovery?
a friend battles one illness and surgery after the other and has no one close to help?
There have been countless situations...especially in the last year.
To me...words just aren't enough for these things. And every thing I can think of to say...sounds so cliche and typical.
"I'm praying for you."
"God will get you through it"...He will but sometimes I think that just isn't the best thing to say at certain times.
"I love you."
"I can't understand but I am praying for you."
"I'm thinking about you."
None of them are enough.
None of them are sufficient.
Nothing that is said can say what a hug says.
Nothing that is said can replace the feeling of knowing someone cares by cooking them dinner to relieve some stress. Or watching their child so they can rest and recover. Or cleaning their house because they are to sick.
I'm just left with words.
So I find that most of the time...I say nothing. I think about them a lot. And I pray for them a lot. And I listen to them when we talk on the phone.
But I feel as though I'm being a terrible friend because I can't do anything for them.
Or I feel like a terrible friend because I know there is nothing I can say that is sufficient so I say nothing. I don't call, I don't send a card...cause it just feels like it's not enough. And it won't help them in the slightest. AND...I worry that whatever I do say in a card is just going to make them feel worse. SO...I don't send one. It makes me feel worse though. UGH.
All I have are WORDS...and I just don't feel like that is enough.
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